"These individuals seem to fail to understand that internalized homophobia is not a battle for those who authentically live their truth but rather for those who attempt to mirror a life dictated by stereotypes and then seek to impose this imitation on others." Perfectly worded, I think it should be pri Ted off and posted on every community notice board everywhere! I have never been the right kind of lesbian. Insecure people need the everyone to validate them, secure people don't give a fuck what random acquaintances think. Thank you for writing this!
Yes. As someone who has always been 'the wrong kind of gay', I really appreciate this. For me, what's difficult about being gay is that I have never lived up to people's expectations of how they expected/wanted me to be. Being gay has been exasperating because it's been a lifetime of trying to explain myself to people--straight AND gay.
For the straights: I wasn't 'fun' like Hollywood in 'Mannequin' or Jack on Will & Grace; I'm not the gay BFF who styles you and does your hair & makeup; I'm not your fallback babydaddy; I'm not your 'work husband'.
For the gays: In the 90's I committed the sin of not being a Madonna fan; I also never liked Barbra Streisand or Elton John; I'm not going to 'battle' you on the dance floor; I don't watch Kardashians or Housewives; I don't dress the latest trends or labels; I loathe Hillary Clinton.
Also annoying: The gays make me feel bad because I'm not having any/enough sex; meanwhile the straights assume I'm having sex ALL THE TIME with a zillion guys!
"These individuals seem to fail to understand that internalized homophobia is not a battle for those who authentically live their truth but rather for those who attempt to mirror a life dictated by stereotypes and then seek to impose this imitation on others." Perfectly worded, I think it should be pri Ted off and posted on every community notice board everywhere! I have never been the right kind of lesbian. Insecure people need the everyone to validate them, secure people don't give a fuck what random acquaintances think. Thank you for writing this!
Perfectly stated!
Yes. As someone who has always been 'the wrong kind of gay', I really appreciate this. For me, what's difficult about being gay is that I have never lived up to people's expectations of how they expected/wanted me to be. Being gay has been exasperating because it's been a lifetime of trying to explain myself to people--straight AND gay.
For the straights: I wasn't 'fun' like Hollywood in 'Mannequin' or Jack on Will & Grace; I'm not the gay BFF who styles you and does your hair & makeup; I'm not your fallback babydaddy; I'm not your 'work husband'.
For the gays: In the 90's I committed the sin of not being a Madonna fan; I also never liked Barbra Streisand or Elton John; I'm not going to 'battle' you on the dance floor; I don't watch Kardashians or Housewives; I don't dress the latest trends or labels; I loathe Hillary Clinton.
Also annoying: The gays make me feel bad because I'm not having any/enough sex; meanwhile the straights assume I'm having sex ALL THE TIME with a zillion guys!